The Adventures of Cindy Li
Online Social Networks are they friends or not?
August 14 , 2007
Once upon a time
at lunch time you would invite someone to sit down with you to eat, share a snack and that’s how you became friends. Sometimes if you are lucky those friends are the ones you can call on when you’ve got a flat tire on the side of the interstate when its pouring rain in Oklahoma. These days friends are sometimes people you’ve never even met but for some reason or another they find your screen name via linkedin, twitter, flickr, or facebook.
What are your rules for friendship online?
Some of these social sites do not allow the distinction of acquaintance, professional, or friend. These sites have different reasons for existing and wouldn’t necessarily work if there was a distinction of the social groups.
Flickr allows contact, friend or family.
Twitter allows friend, or follower
Linkedin allows contact
Facebook has friends.
I’ve met a lot of people via conferences, and websites but I do not necessarily want them in all my social networks. Being a girl I’ve always been taught to be polite and by denying someone into my social network feels cruel. All the social online networking groups are starting to make this feeling go away for protection of my privacy and safety. I’ve denied people on flickr that had all Asian women in their contact list. I’ve denied people who were twittering things in other languages because I didn’t know them and didn’t have time to translate what they were saying.
When did approving someone into your social network mean you were approving them as a good designer/coder/person?
Is standing next to someone at a conference in a photo mean you are friends?
What are your rules for approving someone into your social network?